Author Archive for suburbamom

Quality over Quantity

GrouchoMask

I know children’s development is usually measured quantitatively, like in numbers of words per sentence, or how high they can count, but in this mama’s world, it’s all about quality. With my first pregnancy, I was stressed about being a good mommy, and my husband always told me to focus on loving them, and the…

Who Am I?

HugMommy

With the birth of each child, I have felt a strong calling to be home with them, but finances have never allowed it, and I’ve never had the support of my husband or mentors in the desire.  The birth of my third son coincided with the beginning of my two-year-old’s therapies.  While on maternity leave,…

Tan Lines

TanLines

How is it that I’m tan?  I mean, seriously.  Anyone who knows me knows I can’t get a tan.  As a teenager, I would lay out in the backyard for hours in hopes of getting a bit of color, that wasn’t a freckle. I’m a mom whose life is running from one appointment to another. …

Denial

YoungestHat1

I used to think denial was something people chose when they refused to deal with their emotions.  Now, I know it really is impossible to grieve without first denying. After dealing with the grief of my middle son’s diagnosis, I thought I would be fine if my third son also had a diagnosis.  I recently…

Expect Joy

MiddleTowel

My son’s diagnosis brought a dark cloud, which seemed to suck the joy out of life.  I selfishly mourned the dreams I had for my children and our family.  I panicked with the loss of control I had over his behavior and our schedule.  His behavior, which to others seems normal for a two-year-old, was…

Learn The Signs

TheMileStoneBW

The popular Autism awareness campaign slogan is “Learn the Signs. Act Early.”  That gives a false sense of security. The campaign says to read the milestones, and when your child doesn’t meet them, tell the pediatrician.  The End.  That isn’t enough.  Our pediatrician brushed us off when we told him our one year old wasn’t…

Waist

WaistBW

Recently, I happened to notice something in the mirror. A waist! Or at least the beginnings of one. I guess I’ve been wearing baggy nursing tops lately, but this day I wore a regular fitted top, and noticed I finally have a bit of a waist. I had given up on looking for it months ago.…

Special

Quirky

As a kid, I was amazed when a baby was born, and grew into a child and adult, with what seemed to be no problem at all.  I couldn’t wrap my head around how perfectly the body developed in the womb. When I had my first child, I was still in awe.  How did his…

Baby-Carrying

BigGuyBaby

I’ve heard a few stories about young children picking up their baby siblings without their mother’s permission, and the mothers trying to retrieve the baby without the older child getting worked up and dropping the baby.  I honestly figured if that happened to us, it would be the least of our troubles. I’ve been expecting…

The Start

drowninginpaperBW

I’ve lived a sheltered, “typical” life.  I didn’t know or interact with anyone with disabilities or any special needs, nor was I raised with exceptionally positive attitudes toward those who had them.  When I found out my almost-two-year-old had Autism, I was devastated.  Though I knew my son was still the same person he was…